The best books about very, very messy relationships

Why am I passionate about this?

I’m genuinely fascinated by human nature and why we behave the way we do, the things that make us act within or out of character, and at what point they become a part of who we are rather than just a lapse in judgment or an isolated incident. Relationships in particular fascinate me because of the way they force us to reckon with our behavior towards ourselves and other people. I love seeing how writers explore and examine those relationships, whether before, after, or during them, and how they allow their characters to move through those moments. Often, despite how far-fetched some of the scenarios may feel, I find myself within their pages.


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The Three of Us

By Ore Agbaje-Williams,

Book cover of The Three of Us

What is my book about?

What if your two favourite people hated each other? A nice house, a carefree life, a doting husband, a best friend never leaves your side. There’s just one problem: they love you but they hate each other. Set over a single day, husband, wife, and best friend toe the lines of compromise and betrayal. Told in three parts, three people’s lives, and their visions of themselves and one another, begin to slowly unravel, until a startling discovery throws everyone’s integrity into question.

Full of intrigue, idiosyncratic wit, and a healthy dose of wealth and snobbery The Three of Us is part suburban millennial comedy of manners and part domestic noir that will leave you wondering: whose side are you on?

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of Fates and Furies

Ore Agbaje-Williams Why did I love this book?

The story of a marriage told as though Greek mythology, Fates and Furies is a masterful look at what it takes to make some of the most sacred relationships work, and what we are willing to do to save them, even at the cost of our own pride.

Charting the marriage between Mathilde and Lotto (Lancelot), we see at first the Lotto’s perspective, which paints for us a picture of a happy marriage, plagued with life’s traditional issues, but still a good marriage. Then in the second half of the book we see Mathilde’s perspective, what happened in the moments Lotto was consumed with himself and which of them really worked hardest to keep their marriage together until the very end.

I was utterly gripped by this book, which felt like a refreshing and brutally honest take on keeping a marriage alive.

By Lauren Groff,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Fates and Furies as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A FINALIST FOR THE NATIONAL BOOK AWARD

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

NAMED A BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR BY: THE WASHINGTON POST, NPR, TIME, THE SEATTLE TIMES, MINNEAPOLIS STAR-TRIBUNE, SLATE, LIBRARY JOURNAL, KIRKUS, AND MANY MORE

“Lauren Groff is a writer of rare gifts, and Fates and Furies is an unabashedly ambitious novel that delivers – with comedy, tragedy, well-deployed erudition and unmistakable glimmers of brilliance throughout.” —The New York Times Book Review (cover review)

From the award-winning, New York Times-bestselling author of Florida, Matrix, and the highly-anticipated The Vaster Wilds: an exhilarating novel about marriage, creativity, art, and perception.…


Book cover of A Separation

Ore Agbaje-Williams Why did I love this book?

I loved A Separation because we learned so little about the personality of the husband, who goes missing, and the narrator – his estranged wife – who goes to Greece to look for him.

Kitamura instead shows us who the husband is by how he makes others, including the woman at the hotel in Greece he has an affair with and the narrator herself, feel. It’s a sharp and taut depiction of what happens when a love dies over time, and what you do with the pieces that are left.

By Katie Kitamura,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked A Separation as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A young woman has agreed with her faithless husband: it's time for them to separate. For the moment it's a private matter, a secret between the two of them. As she begins her new life, alone, she gets word that her ex-husband has gone missing in a remote region in the rugged southern Peloponnese. Reluctantly she agrees to go and search for him, still keeping their split to herself. In her heart, she's not even sure if she wants to find him. Adrift in the wild and barren landscape, she traces the failure of their relationship, and finds that she…


Book cover of I'm a Fan

Ore Agbaje-Williams Why did I love this book?

Possibly one of the most chaotic and entertaining books I have ever read, it tells the story of a woman utterly transfixed not just by the man she is having an affair with – a married man – but also one of the other women that man is also having an affair with, referred to throughout as ‘the woman I am obsessed with’.

Patel’s highly engrossing and visceral writing will call you out, make you laugh, and leave you desperate to keep reading all at once. 

By Sheena Patel,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked I'm a Fan as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

“A fast, fizzing cherry bomb of a debut” (The Observer [UK]) about power, intimacy, and the internet

I stalk a woman on the internet who is sleeping with the same man as I am.

Sheena Patel’s incandescent first novel begins with the unnamed narrator describing her involvement in a seemingly unequal romantic relationship. With a clear and unforgiving eye, she dissects the behavior of all involved, herself included, and makes startling connections between the power struggles at the heart of human relationships and those of the wider world. I’m a Fan offers a devastating critique of class, social media, patriarchy’s…


Book cover of Women

Ore Agbaje-Williams Why did I love this book?

I rarely read books more than once, but this is one of the few that gets an exception based on its sharpness and ability to show its reader the highs and lows of a new, intoxicating, and hidden relationship.

The protagonist, as far as she knows, is straight, that is until she meets Finn. What happens then is what happens when you know that something is bad for you from the very beginning, but you pursue it anyway. So beautifully and painfully written but impossible to put down.

By Chloe Caldwell,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Women as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

'A beautiful read / a perfect primer for an explosive lesbian affair / an essential truth' Lena Dunham

'I have meditated repeatedly on what it was about Finn that had me so dismantled.'

A young woman moves from the countryside to the city.
Inexplicably, inexorably and immediately, she falls in love with another woman for the first time in her life.
Finn is nineteen years older than her, wears men's clothes, has a cocky smirk of a smile - and a long-term girlfriend.
With precision, wit and tenderness, Women charts the frenzy and the fall out of love.


Book cover of Acts of Desperation

Ore Agbaje-Williams Why did I love this book?

I loved this book – and read it in one or two sittings – because of how skillfully the author, Megan Nolan, is able to explore the pits of a broken relationship and the attempts and failures of trying to heal.

It pulls no punches in its depiction of what we are willing to do when we believe we are in love and that that love is good, and also in its depiction of what happens to us when the bad reveals itself in all its naked ugliness. Once you’ve read this, you’ll want to read anything else Nolan writes next.

By Megan Nolan,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Acts of Desperation as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

*A NEW STATESMAN, OBSERVER, IRISH TIMES, i, SPECTATOR AND STYLIST BOOK OF 2021*

'Please believe the hype ... a seriously exciting writer' Sunday Times

'Such brilliant writing about female desire... honest and visceral' Marian Keyes

Discover this bitingly honest, darkly funny debut novel about a toxic relationship and secret female desire, from an emerging star of Irish literature.

Love was the final consolation, would set ablaze the fields of my life in one go, leaving nothing behind. I thought of it as a force which would clean me and by its presence make me worthy of it. There was no…


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Book cover of Conditions are Different After Dark

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Why am I passionate about this?

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What is my book about?

In 1662, a man is wrongly executed for signing the death warrant of Charles I. Awaiting execution, he asks to speak with a priest, to whom he declares a curse on the village that betrayed him. The priest responds with a counter-curse, leaving just one option to nullify it.

Over four centuries later, Faith and James move to the country to start a new life and a family. They discover their village lives under the curse uttered by the hanged man. Could their arrival be connected? They fear their choice of new home is no coincidence. Unexplained events hint at threats or warnings to leave. They become convinced the village remains cursed despite their friends’ denials. Who can they trust, and who are potential enemies?

Conditions are Different After Dark

By Owen W. Knight,

What is this book about?

In 1660, a man is wrongly executed for signing the death warrant of Charles I. While awaiting execution, he asks to speak with a priest, to whom he declares a curse on the village that betrayed him. The priest responds with a counter-curse, leaving just one option to nullify it.
Over four centuries later, Faith and James move to the country to start a new life and a family. They learn that their village lives under the curse uttered by the hanged man. Could their arrival be connected?
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