The most recommended books about gay men

Part manifesto, part archive of a fascinating and alluring sub-culture, Geoff Mains's book explores the possibilities of extreme encounters through pain/pleasure, BDSM, and role play in the leather community.

It’s not sensationalist although it examines ideas around sensation. It celebrates performance whilst honoring intimacy. It’s a book that would offer a reader of every sexuality an insight into some of their own fantasies and how to access them safely, and meaningfully.

I read it like I would read an exhaustive and tempting menu – picking out items I might like to taste myself and learning a great deal in the process. 

There are so many reasons to love this book, but my top is the story of David Bingham, who lives in New York City with his older lover and who is secretly a descendant of Hawaiian royalty.

The book makes three big leaps in time, and David’s portion is set in the early nineties. As the AIDS crisis rips through their community, he privately tries to contend with the pain of being abandoned by his father, who left his family to join the Hawaiian independence movement.

When I set out to write my book, I wanted to write a contemporary story set in Hawaiʻi but didn’t trust that the issues driving the plot would be clear without historical context. Hanya Yanagihara does no such thing. She treats Hawaiʻi as a place whose history is known, which allows her to turn her attention toward imagining its future. 

Written in the fifties, perhaps the author’s gender helped excuse her brave assumption that the intimate thoughts and feelings of a group of young gay men attempting to come to terms with their sexual identity was a valid topic. Renaud writes of stunted lives: the invented girlfriends, the cautious hints to probe another man’s preferences, the desperate need to belong, provoking the retreat into society’s stereotyping even amongst themselves. The novel is dated; one character has to explain to another what drag is! But it was one more step towards gay men’s forming their identity and self-acceptance. 

I loved the writing style of this book. I felt like I was sitting across from Luc, sharing coffee and listening to him tell me about his life like I would with a true, real-life friend.

And just like I would in real life, all throughout the book, I found myself shaking my head at some of Luc’s decisions and laughing with him when he found himself way over his head. So when Oliver came into his life and clearly became someone who was so obviously good for him, I was thrilled for my new friend. 

Someone bought me Missouri. I had it on my shelf for ages, not thinking so much of it (judging the book by its cover). As soon as I started reading it though I was transfixed.

It’s a pitch-perfect novella, beautifully written, heartbreaking, tender, funny, and tragic; a remarkable gay love story, easily on a par with Annie Proulx’s wonderful Brokeback Mountain. Like all major novels – and this is a very short one – I came to care deeply about the two lovers at the heart of Missouri.

Erotic (in the best sense), cinematic in its evocation of the American landscape, I’d highly recommend it to any and every reader, but if you’re a gay man (like myself) you’ll find it especially moving.

Did you think I would only recommend one Queer Eye book on my list? Do you know me at all?

Love That Story has a lot of laughs, of course, but like the author, the depths of compassion laced with gentle education speaks to the heart of everything I wish I’d always known. Do not read unless you want to better understand this lovely soul. You might just finish this book as a better version of yourself.

What I loved most about Ferraro’s retelling of The Mysteries of Udolpho was his unique take on the classic YA love triangle. Not only does this love triangle stand out because it’s queer (all three characters involved are young men), but because it wasn’t obvious to me from the beginning how the love triangle would resolve. Typically, in love triangle stories, I can tell who the character – and thus the author – prefers. I’m pretty confident about who is going to win out in the end. 

But Ferraro took his time developing each love interest, and his main character’s struggle to pick one over the other is palpable and well-written. I was left guessing until the very end, and the way the love triangle resolved was both surprising and satisfying. 

An extraordinary, high-pitched, Munchausenesque account of a visit to only-just-post-Soviet Leningrad during an especially overheated period of recent history. Not at all like the genteel memories of champagne receptions at the Mariinsky Theatre followed by strolls down the Moika during the White Nights that one gets in other travelogues.

This is not as good as the brilliant Less, for which Greer had won the Pulitzer, but it is nevertheless a riveting, bitter-sweet ramble through the aging, gay, mildly successful novelist Arthur Less’ affairs and absurdities, foibles, and fears.

Writing about the middle-aged heterosexual man and his loves and losses has never been an easy task: only a few writers, like the underrated Italo Svevo, have managed to carry it off. But writing about a middle-aged homosexual man’s loves and losses is probably even more difficult: after all, a sizeable chunk of readers are heterosexual.

Greer managed it so brilliantly in Less and convincingly in Less is Lost that even staid heterosexual readers like me were entertained, moved, and captivated. This is a funny novel about, as a reviewer put it, “the absurdity of the human condition and its wistful beauty.”

A wonderful coming-of-age novel set against the tumultuous backdrop of the Vietnam War.

Two young men are lucky enough to find kindred spirits in one another and then suddenly, they are wrenched apart – one off to college in Wisconsin, and the other drafted off to fight in the Vietnam War.

The two men take up a correspondence, leaning on each other and sharing their thoughts, fears, hopes, and dreams through the only avenue available to them: the written word. Their letters are a lifeline for both.

This novel is a journey through the heart and mind of two young disillusioned men who learn all about friendship and love through letters, finding themselves again through each other.